Why Motivation is a Myth and What to Focus on Instead
There's a few phrases that make me mad quicker than anything...and this is the #1 such phrase:
I get it.
I used to look at Instagram influencer's accounts (before "influencer" was even a thing,) and wonder how they had the willpower to get those abs. I wondered why I couldn't stick to my self-constructed meal plan I'd made; why I couldn't say no to that late night ice cream; or why I couldn't get myself in gear enough to keep a budget, stretch every day, etc.
I figured my lack of motivation was to blame for my setting the same New Years Resolutions years after year, and why I never did those things "I really should do."
But motivation is a big fat myth, as I've come to learn over the last few years.
Those people that had the abs I wanted, or the life I wanted, or who seemed to have more willpower and the ability to stick to things I couldn't seem to stick to...they weren't, and aren't, naturally blessed with extra motivation. They don't spring out of bed wanting to work out, or eat the foods required to get a six pack. Because both things suck sometimes. No one is magically motivated to do hard things. Because it's often not fun and it's never easy.
How do I know? Before over the last 4 years, at least in some regards, I became that person who I used to look up to on Instagram.
I've gotten the abs (temporarily) and I made working out and eating (mostly) healthy into habits that have stuck.
And what I learned along the way was that DISCIPLINE is what we should all focus on, not motivation. Because I never felt like it...and even though I work out six days a week now for the past 4 years, even though i'm in the best shape of my life, if I were to only workout and eat healthy when I was "motivated" to, it'd be more like two days a week. Sometimes, zero.
When I was a few days away from my fitness competition and with the best abs of my life, I didn't want to workout, I didn't really want to eat clean, and I was tired and draggy and just wanted to nap. Right now, as I build toward some really big fitness and biz goals, I definitely dont spring out of bed feeling like getting to work.
So stop giving motivation any power at all.
Motivation is that little rush of a feeling as the credits roll on a documentary that inspired the heck out of you, but by the time you're cooking diner that night, or at least by the end of the week, I bet it's gone, right?
Discipline is going to be the thing that makes you do that workout you don't feel like doing it, eating the healthy meal when you'd really rather hit up Taco Tuesday, or answer your emails when you'd rather Netflix-binge.
Discipline isn't sexy...it's the same muscle you flex to brush your teeth every night or pay your taxes - which I hope you do both of. But it's the only thing that separates you from the success you want, in whatever area of your life you want.
To get more disciplined, commit. Plan. Schedule things into your planner. Find an accountability buddy. Make a contingency plan for when life hurdles happen. Remind yourself why you started. Set deadlines. And reach out, if you need any help with any of this. But don't say the word "motivation" to me, pretty please :)
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